In Us All Along

Many moons ago I fell in love with a guy who "made" me feel the highest highs (and the lowest lows). Being around him brought out the creative side of me, the side that writes poetry, the side that appreciates art and synchronicity and mysticism. When things didn’t work out between us I was crushed for many reasons, one of which was the belief that I would never feel the same again. That I would never feel a love so intense, a bliss so blissful, or a creativity so constant. You'll notice that I put that first "made" in quotes -- that's because he didn't make me feel anything that wasn't already within me.

This stuff is already in us, just like how ice can't be made without water.

The other day I watched a TV show (I won't say which one because, well, spoilers) and one of the characters lamented the loss of her paramour because he brought out the creative side of her, a kind of magic she was afraid she wouldn't be able to recreate without him. Her friend responded, "Honey, don't forget that was already in you all along." Now, people have been saying variations on that to me for a while, but it wasn't until I watched this TV show and heard the words said in precisely that way it sunk in. I finally felt in my heart: "Oh, right. Those feelings, that creativity, already existed inside of me. It wasn't a magical conjuring by this guy. It didn't appear out of thin air."

For a long time I thought the only way I could ever feel as blissful, creative, alive, etc. ever again was to be around that guy or to find another one. The internal feelings within me were always dependent on the presence of someone else (or something else). Realizing all of these feelings, this creativity, this magic exists within me frees me from the chains of external attachments. Frees me from the belief I have to have someone else around in order to feel them.

I bring this up because so often I hear people talking about how they need to go to India to find spirituality, or they need to go to this place to feel at peace. Or they need to date so and so in order to be happy. Or whatever, I'm sure you've heard the same things. Of course external things influence how we feel, I'm not denying that, but what I am saying is our joy, our bliss, our creativity, fill in the blank, are not dependent on external people, places, or things. Those feelings exist within us all along. Another person wouldn't be able to bring them out of us just like how you can't make ice without water.

Take me for instance. I still write poetry on occasion and I still appreciate art. I don't have to have somebody in my life in order to bring out my creativity or help me love paintings, I can do that for myself. I don't need to attach any of my internal qualities externally because the entire universe already exists inside of me -- I have everything I need.

I dream of a world where we realize all the feelings we associate someone or something else bringing out in us we have inside already. A world where we remember we don't have to go chasing after anything to elicit peace, joy, or love. A world where we treasure our inner landscape and play there often.

Another world is not only possible, it's probable.