The Real Me

This time last week I sat on the cold steps of an imposing New York building, shivering in the brisk March sunshine, talking on the phone to kill time while waiting for a friend. It feels like it happened to someone else. Right now all the things I've done feel unreal, which is likely due to the fact I'm on day 13 of the flu, and last night I dreamed of disturbing things.

In my sickened state, I'm asking questions like, “How do I know I exist?” Some people would say I know I exist because my sense organs tell me so: I can hear, feel, touch, see, and taste, and thus that proves I exist. But is that really the case? What about people who are in a coma and not doing any of those things? Or aware they are doing those things? They still exist, so that to me points toward the knowledge of existence coming not from the body, but from the mind.

Who am I? Who are you? Photo by Todd Quackenbush on Unsplash.

I think it also makes sense then why I'm asking these questions right now because my mind is affected by the flu – I'm not thinking clearly and thus my grip on reality, and therefore existence, feels tenuous. I'm a balloon floating higher in the sky, untethered to the Earth. Am I even here right now? I'm not sure. One thing I do know for sure: There is an “I” here.

My spiritual teacher says, “The statement 'I know I exist' proves the existence of a knowing 'I.'” In Sanskrit, that knowing “I” is called átman or unit consciousness. I want to break that down a little more. “Unit” meaning a single thing and “consciousness,” well, that's more complicated, but let's say for simplicity's sake consciousness means awareness. In other words, átman is my personal awareness in its purest form. It's not the part of me that says, “I visited New York last week;” it's the pure, undifferentiated “I” with nothing attached. It's the me without all the trappings.

My spiritual teacher also says through introspection and concentrated thinking, one observes that átman and the mind, that is, unit consciousness and the mind, are two separate entities. That makes sense to me because when I concentrate, when I meditate deeply, I'm aware of an unaffected part of myself. An observer who sees all but remains calm regardless of circumstances. I'm aware of the observer as much as I'm aware of simultaneously feeling angry or sad or happy.

The point of my meditation practice is to continue communing with that pure “I.” The me that is beyond time and space. The point of my meditation practice is to continue to know the real me that belongs to both me and to you. Also within the spiritual philosophy of my tradition is the idea there exists not only the unit consciousness, but also a collective consciousness, called Paramátman. I am a singular entity, but I am also a plural entity. There is me, but there is also more than me.

Who am I really? I am everything and I am nothing, all at the same time. The real me is an “I” that I can't describe, only feel, and that's true for everyone.

I dream of a world where we recognize who we really are is beyond words. A world where we realize an “I” exists in a pure, unqualified form and that's true for all of us, not only some of us. A world where we remember the real us is greater than the sum of our parts.

Another world is not only possible, it's probable.